How To Be a Peaceful Parent

How to Be a Peaceful Parent

By Donna Vail

If you feel peaceful within, you begin to attract more of the peace you desire. Why? Because you’re functioning from a place of peace. Your children are deeply connected with you and they feel your stress and anxiety even when you don’t verbally express it to them. Have you ever noticed they seem to act up more when your are stressed or anxious?

When you are homeschooling, your children are with you for many if not most hours of the day, everyday. Creating this peace makes all the difference in your life as well as theirs. Children are learning what they live, as parents we have to reflect on our ways and ask ourselves, “What we are modeling for them?” If you want to experience more peace in your every day, the only place to begin is within. Once you begin practicing this for yourself you can help your children practice this as well. Imagine doing math faster and easier with mindful breathing.

Here’s three practical steps you can begin taking towards peace. Even though they seem extremely simple you will be amazed when you apply these steps at how fast you will bring peace to your life. As easy as these steps are, peace is experienced when they are practiced. Give it a try, you will be amazed at how something so complex can make such a big difference. The fact that they are simple and touch the essence of our existence makes them even more powerful. Not only will it benefit you but also those who surround you and improve all areas of your life.

1. Mindful breathing. As you are aware of the air that is entering your body and the air leaving your body you are brought into the now. No longer do you have to look back at the past with regrets or fear the future, being in the now will bring you to an immediate peace. This is where you recognize your connection between body and air. We can go without food between 21-40 days without dying and without water for possibly 10 days however we need the air that we breathe. Our organs are created to work at their optimum with plenty of movement and oxygen which comes from mindful breathing. Optimize your body and soul at the same time. It can be done easily while you are sitting, lying down, standing, walking, driving or working. Here’s how Thich Nhat Hanh suggests to do for mindful breathing-

Breathing in, I am aware only of my in breath. Breathing out, I am aware only of my out breath…In, Out

Breathing in, I am aware that my in breath grows deep. Breathing out, I am aware that my out breath grows deep…Deep, Deep.

Breathing in, I am aware that my in breath goes slowly. Breathing out, I am aware that my out breath goes slowly…Slow, Slow.

2. Mindful walking. This is simply paying attention to your walking. Instead of being in other places with your thoughts and worries, completely be present in the moment. Notice your feet as they contact the ground. Breathe in and out easily as you walk. Fully enjoy everything that you experience; the beautiful flowers you pass, the vast open field in your view, the happy children playing outside or even the song of a bird. Taking a mindful walk everyday brings great peace to your life filling you with inspiration.

3. Mindful Communication. Speaking and listening with compassion is mindful communication. It means to be aware of what you are saying, using loving speech. It means listening deeply to the person speaking to hear what is being said and what is not being said. It is important in all of our relationships to be able to respond effectively, letting go of the pain and anger we’ve been concentrating on. As we strengthen our mindful breathing and mindful walking it will make mindful communication easier to practice naturally.

Breathing in, I calm my body. Breathing out, I smile…

Breathing in, I open my heart. Breathing out, in my heart there is room for you…

Stay inspired to love more, live more and learn more.

What have you practiced to find peace as a parent?  Please comment below…love to hear from you.

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About Donna Vail

Donna Vail is an education-parenting specialist, coach, mompreneur, homeschooling mother of six children, author and founder of An Inspired Education. She helps families create a lifestyle of true freedom by balancing education, work and life through self-education, entrepreneurship and inspiration. She is a highly sought after consultant for her successful guidance and resources that enable parents to let go of traditional parenting and education models, creating a lifestyle of learning where the whole family flourishes. You can find more of her resources at


  1. Kathy Light says:

    Thank you, Donna! Great article, and I needed this reminder today. Thanks for all you do to make parenting easier.

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