What to Do When An Impossible Day Shows Up

“What to Do When An Impossible Day Shows Up”

By Donna Vail

 “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” –Theodore Roosevelt

It is inevitable that some days will just seem like a struggle. Knowing that, you’d think we should be well prepared to weather the storm and come out on the other side better for it instead of stressed and overwhelmed. For most, it’s not that easy. When those impossible days arrive, they often catch us by surprise, but if we look back and consider the events that lead up to those “impossible” days we will find that our own thoughts and actions have contributed to the events that are showing up as “impossible” days.

So what do you do to prevent these unsavory days from showing up in the first place? For starters, we have to consider what our values are and what we think about. Every moment with our family is another opportunity to reach deep within our character and our heart of hearts and respond rather than react. It is actually our internal dialogue and judgment that gets in the way. The more we are able to allow the flow through our homeschool, the better experience it will be for all involved. We can move faster through those impossible days and focus on what really matters. Remember, it’s not what you said but how you made them feel that will be remembered for years to come.

Children will be children so it’s up to us to set them up with an environment that is supportive, inspiring and conducive to their learning and growing. Even the best laid plans fall apart on some days because you are at the very center of life where humans are being grown into unlimited potential and there will be imbalances. We have to allow for and be the love bridge that reconnects the balance.

Here are three practical steps you can take to tame those impossible days:

  1. Decide what’s really important. Don’t try to overload your children with too much information or overloaded schedules. What they really need is to concentrate on and master mathematics, reading and writing. When they have an inspiring learning environment, the time to become masters at the core and the freedom to love learning, life flows smoother and your impossible days reduce dramatically. Through reading and the freedom to explore they will learn the subjects needed to succeed in life no matter what they pursue.
  2. Take the school out of your homeschool. The number one cause of stress and burnout for homeschoolers is re-creating a school at home. The parents, usually the mom is standing in front of her children teaching and lecturing for hours on end. Not to mention all the hours spent preparing lessons, teaching lessons, grading papers and always ready to tell her children what’s next. Let go, you don’t need to “do school” anymore. Self-education, living inspired and creating everyday success habits that are supportive help propels you into a love for learning that honors each member individually and the family as a whole. Not only do the children flourish academically but the whole family grows in their relationships and work, becoming very successful in all areas of life.
  3. Drop your unrealistic expectations. It’s time to wake up and realize that all things change and with children this means constant change. They are evolving at a very fast rate and at times this can be hard to keep up with. What they really need is our compassion, our courage and belief that they can do all the great things they dream of doing. We have to be okay with mistakes and see them as just that. We are here to guide them along the path, as partners and the more we love, the more we are able to live and in doing so the more we learn. Life is for growing, loving and having fun.

As you work through these three steps you will go through graduated progress. Make sure you are supported and support your children as you make changes for improvement. When there are more people involved you have to allow more time for each person to grow through the changes. Apply the Inspired Action below to achieve faster results. Next week I will share a big tip about balancing your schedule and getting it all done. This will also help prevent impossible days.

“The secret of happiness is freedom and the secret of freedom is courage.” -Thucydides

Parents Inspired to Action:

  • Ask yourself, “Have I added too much to their plates?” “Do I expect too much every day?” “Have I created enough time for exploration and individual interests?” The answers are in the questions. Live a lifestyle of learning and make it a part of your every day. Seize the opportunities to learn from and talk about what’s learned. Communication is key so be sure to share openly and listen attentively.
  • Can you take time off? You don’t have to stop academics, reading and learning but is there something in your schedule that you can let go of if not for long, maybe just for today? Take time to rest, lay around and read books, run outside together and play, bring all the legos into one room and build something really huge. Be flexible, everyone needs a little time away from the norm.
  • Can you let go of expectations? Sometimes we expect more from our children than what’s even physically possible. Could you just love them the way they are, accept them in their raw state with their rough edges and unlearned ways? Be the observer and practice accepting your children just the way they are without always having to expect or correct. Practice radical love and gratefulness. You just might surprise them and they will for sure surprise you.

Children Inspired to Action: 

  • Make time everyday to get out in the fresh air to run, walk and see the sun. Exercise energizes, clears the mind and burns that extra energy that sometimes gets in the way or into mischief.
  • Surprise your children with your flexibility. You can have structure but it doesn’t have to be set in stone. So go out and have fun finding something that will have you both smiling and laughing.
  • Ask your children, “If you could change anything about the way we do things, what would it be?” Sometimes when we are stuck and don’t know what to do children in their young and innocent ways can see through the blocks we let get in our way. They might have the ideas you’re looking for. If you’re worried about making changes, agree to do it on a trial basis and you can always change if it doesn’t work.
You might be wondering what kind of systems you can incorporate to get the results you’re looking for in your own homeschool and life. What are the daily details to make it happen? Trial and error can take a lot of time. Successful people always incorporate the help of mentors and coaches so they don’t have to re-invent the wheel. If you would like a more systematic approach that includes the details to help you produce real change fast, I recommend joining the Mentor Mastery Inner Circle. It keeps you inspired and you receive coaching directly from Donna in the most important things for setting up simple, effective systems giving your children an education in excellence while creating family harmony. It’s easy. It’s affordable. Get started today at www.donnavailinternational.com/inner-circle.html.
Think peace, live love.

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