The Need to Be Idle

“How can happiness be bestowed? My own answer is: Abolish authority. Let the child be himself. Teach him. Don’t lecture him. Don’t evaluate him. Don’t force him to do anything.” –A. S. Neill Summerhill

We must ensure that every moment of every day is intense and filled with pleasure, joy, fun, laughter and passion.

Support your children learning the 3R’s, let them explore and learn technical skills and leave them alone otherwise. Alone meaning, allow, allow, allow. Allow them to be who they are now as they grow into something more. Allow them to explore what they are interested in now because it’s likely to quickly change. Allow them the time to be idle, get board, dream, and observe the world around them. Don’t worry, their passion and purpose will fuel their actions moving them to a successful and fulfilling life.

But in order to truly support them you must find your spot of idleness as well.When can you just sit and read while they play nearby? When can you do something you truly enjoy? Is it painting, playing music, reading, drawing, gardening, building something, cooking or even just sitting enjoying time with friends? This idleness needs to not only be available for the children but the parents as well. What good is it for children to be idle while the parents are running around like mad? This will only cause a constant uphill battle within the home, a double standard and feeling of conflict. Get in sync with your whole life.

When children learn by choice and not by force they learn at a far faster rate. Think about your priorities. What are your priorities, really?

Notes from The Idle Parent by Tom Hodgkinson

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